The average Nigerian wedding in 2025 costs between ₦3 million and ₦15 million. Families go into debt. Couples borrow money they spend years repaying. The one-day event becomes a financial anchor on a marriage before it even begins.
And when you suggest something smaller — court wedding, intimate ceremony, backyard gathering — you are told you are doing it "anyhow" or that the family will be disgraced.
My honest position: the scale of Nigerian weddings has become more about family ego and community performance than about the couple getting married. And we are paying for it literally and emotionally.
Counter-arguments welcome. But please, defend the actual practice — not the tradition in principle.
And when you suggest something smaller — court wedding, intimate ceremony, backyard gathering — you are told you are doing it "anyhow" or that the family will be disgraced.
My honest position: the scale of Nigerian weddings has become more about family ego and community performance than about the couple getting married. And we are paying for it literally and emotionally.
Counter-arguments welcome. But please, defend the actual practice — not the tradition in principle.
