Scenario: Your partner has been unemployed for eighteen months. Not lazy — actively looking, doing freelance bits, dealing with a market that's genuinely brutal. You have been carrying the bills.
At what point does support become enabling? At what point does loyalty become financial self-destruction?
Or flip it: if you immediately lose patience with a partner going through a job drought — does that say something about you? About the limits of your love?
I don't think there is a clean answer here. The right response probably depends on: how long, what they're doing with the time, the state of your own finances, and the nature of the relationship.
But where are your actual lines? Not the noble ones — the real ones.
At what point does support become enabling? At what point does loyalty become financial self-destruction?
Or flip it: if you immediately lose patience with a partner going through a job drought — does that say something about you? About the limits of your love?
I don't think there is a clean answer here. The right response probably depends on: how long, what they're doing with the time, the state of your own finances, and the nature of the relationship.
But where are your actual lines? Not the noble ones — the real ones.
