Tunde Bakare

Scenario: Your partner has been unemployed for eighteen months. Not lazy — actively looking, doing freelance bits, dealing with a market that's genuinely brutal. You have been carrying the bills. At what point does su...

Joint account people: it's a marriage, not a business partnership. Keeping separate money creates a hidden exit door and undermines the full commitment. Separate account people: financial independence within marriage ...

The argument for ambitious: people are seeing what's possible outside their immediate environment. A girl in Abeokuta can watch a Nigerian girl in Amsterdam and think: I could do that. Instagram has democratized aspirati...

Be honest. Remove the romance script. You have a person who ticks every practical box: financially stable, respectful, stable family, marriage-minded. They will not embarrass you. They will provide. You will be comfor...

The average Nigerian wedding in 2025 costs between ₦3 million and ₦15 million. Families go into debt. Couples borrow money they spend years repaying. The one-day event becomes a financial anchor on a marriage before it e...

Not absent. Not imperfect. Not occasionally difficult. I mean a parent who has been a consistent source of harm — emotional, psychological, sometimes physical. A parent whose presence in your life makes you measurably wo...

The split camp: it's equal, we should both pay, gender is irrelevant, financial equality applies here too. The traditional camp: the man asked, the man pays, it's not about oppression it's about the signal he's sendin...

I want real answers, not moral high ground. Not the movies version. The real version: you have four years invested, a shared apartment, a cat, a life. One night they made a mistake they have confessed to and are visib...