Storys

Three months into therapy I had a week so good I thought I was done. Genuinely done. The heavy thing I had been carrying felt lighter. I was sleeping. I was present. I thought: I fixed it. Two weeks later I fell apart in a supermarket because they...

The month I quit, three people in my family stopped speaking to me. My father called it irresponsibility. My older sister said I was wasting a "good position." A colleague told me I would be back in six months with my tail between my legs. I had b...

At my peak, I was sending ₦150,000 home every month. Rent for my mother. School fees for two younger siblings. Upkeep for a cousin who was "in between jobs" for three years. I was in my late twenties, just promoted, finally earning well. And every...

I was 29 when a therapist asked me: "What do you enjoy? Not what are you good at — what do you enjoy?" I could not answer. I sat there for what felt like a very long time. I could list my achievements. I could list my responsibilities. I could lis...

My first mentor saw something in me I had not seen in myself. He introduced me to people, shared his network freely, and never asked for anything in return except that I work hard and pass it forward someday. My second "mentor" asked for 40% equit...

While growing up, we were told that when you lose a tooth, you should throw it on the roof of the house so that a stronger and better tooth will grow. But thinking about it now… that tradition is funny sha 😂 What about the people whose teeth di...

We are raised to be strong. Not just strong — unbreakable. Carrying everything without complaint is not just culturally expected; it is framed as virtue. The strong woman. The one who manages. The one who does not burden others. So when the anxiet...

I will not pretend it didn't sting. Chisom and I have been friends since JSS2. She was there the night Emeka broke my heart in 2019. She held me while I sobbed in her bathroom. She called him terrible things on my behalf. When she told me they ...

You realize it when the effort only flows in one direction. You’re always the one calling, checking, understanding, forgiving… while they simply receive. You realize it when they only show up when they need something — attention, money, comfort, or...

Year one: I sold phone accessories from my room in Surulere. My "office" was a WhatsApp status update and a Jiji listing. Profit: ₦340,000. I reinvested all of it. Year two: I rented a shared space in a tech mall, hired one assistant, moved to Ins...

Let him cheat. Let him flirt. Let him walk away. Let him throw away everything you built together. You cannot compete with a man who already decided you are optional. Stop exhausting yourself trying to prove your worth to someone who calculated ...

Remember! You are not behind. You are not late. And you are definitely not forgotten. Every silent prayer, every tear no one saw, every time you chose to stay strong when it would have been easier to give up, it counts. Growth doesn’t always look...

I want to be clear: I still believe. My faith is intact. This is not an anti-church post. But there are specific things that a trained therapist gave me that a decade of prayer and fellowship did not — and I think it's important to say that. Th...

My mother cried when I ended that engagement. Not because she thought he was a good man — she had always been quiet about him, which was her way of screaming. She cried because she was afraid for me. Thirty-one and unmarried in Nigeria is its own kin...

Early in my career as a therapist, I prided myself on structure. I had my questions ready, my frameworks organized, my session plans clear. I believed progress came from direction — from guiding conversations toward measurable breakthroughs. One a...